But what about jealousy?
Most monos who find out I am polyam exclaim "I could never do that! I would get jealous!" Well here is a spoiler for you: You can be polyam and deal with jealousy. Wanna know how I know this? Cause I can be one jealous bitch sometimes. My brain is a real asshat. I was told by an ex one time that I was bad at polyam because I get jealous. Kinda an asshole, weren't they? There is a reason they are an ex. Anyway, I digressed real fast there. I am a big fan of imagery. I imagine my jealousy as a dragon. His name is Seymour. Seymour starts out small and will grow bigger and scarier the bigger Meet Seymour! my jealousy gets. If I don't keep it in check, he weighs me down and even moving is a challenge. He makes me grouchy, hostile, and basically a yucky person. Why is that? Because jealousy tends to be based in fear. I am fucking terrified and I am just trying to survive. Jealousy can make us act out irrationally. It can cause us to act and say things we do not ...