How I got here

I (I am A) am sitting next to my half naked girlfriend, cuddled up in our bed and drinking wine straight from the bottle. My boyfriend is on a date, I think to myself as I take another swig of wine. 

This is A

"I really wish he had put the nice sheets on the bed for her," I say out loud

"I agree" My girlfriend, L, replies. 

How in the fuck did I get here? I am an *almost ALMOST* 34 year old gal practicing ethical non-monogamy. Yep, you heard that right. I have multiple romantic partners. It wasn't always this way though. I did years, YEARS, of monogamy and I was fucking shitty at them. I will spare the details (I do not wish to cry tonight).

This is Boyfriend B

Let us rewind to July of 2015 when I met Boyfriend B. I met him on tinder when my ex and I decided to go on tinder to flirt with people. I was on a mostly mono relationship and wanted to spice things up. Instead, I got a whole new life. 

I was attracted to Boyfriend B because it was so painfully obvious what a kind human he was. His daughter was the light of his life and, being a mom, I found this irresistible. We had amazing online chemistry but would it continue into real fucking life. Let me tell you, dear audience, it was fucking electric when we first met. 

Being the smart people we are, we decided to go for a fucking hike at 6am in the morning. FOR THE FIRST TIME WE MET. How one of us did not murder the other is beyond me. It was that day, August 9th, that completely changed my life. And for the fucking better. At least, that is how it feels in this moment (feelings are messy, ya?). 

Boyfriend B is what brought me into the world of ethical non-monogamy. Was he already poly? No, that would have been way to fucking easy. He lived a life of monogamy. However, he threw caution to the wind and decided to date a married lady. 

Girlfriend L (trust me she had red hair)

Fast forward 3 years later, I was at a kickball game. Yep, I am that fucking yuppie that plays kickball. ANYWAY....my friend T had just hurt his foot and couldn't play. He decides to make best of the situation and bring a hot date to watch the game. Turns out the hot date was Girlfriend L. I had been crushing hard on Girlfriend L since she first came onto the online polyam community. Yeah, I am a bit of a stalker but damn, she was fucking gorgeous and her online personality was brave, outgoing, and creative. She had all 3 parts of the girlfriend trifecta. She was a redhead. She had tattoos. She had been a firefighter. 

"are you bi?" I ask her slyly

"yes," she replies

I hid my face behind my hair. My face is burning red and I giggle, "cool". I was lost in her from that moment. 

Fast forward 9 months later. Girlfriend L finds a cute boy at a meetup she is hosting. I have had a few interactions with him online. He is handsome (beard!) and smart and tattoos! Girlfriend L was a goner. Girlfriend L now had Boyfriend J. 

Boyfriend J

I should probably just mention slightly that there was a brief momentary HUGE HORRIFIC DISLIKE of Boyfriend J by myself. I am going to gloss over that for now as this is more of a brief origin story. I feel like my crazy jealousy story should be its own entry. 

Fast forward 6 months. We all sit down. We talk and talk and talk. We fuck. We are a quad. 

And that, my dear audience, is how A, Boyfriend B, Girlfriend L, and Boyfriend J all came to be.

To be continued......