Family Update
It has been a minute since I blogged last and I wanted to give a dynamic update as things have shifted in our polycule.
Girlfriend A (me!) has moved out of the family home (where I lived with Girlfriend L and Boyfriend J and our combined 6 kids). I now live with boyfriend B with our three children a few minutes away. While the decision to switch up our cohabitation was a hard one to make, we all needed more space. 9 people and five dogs in a 4 bedroom house was starting to wear on us a bit.
With this change, we have had to be more mindful of making time to nurture the individual relationships throughout the polycule. When a shift occurs like this in a 'cule, it can be easy to drift apart. That has been a fear of everyone in the 'cule so we have been very mindful to keep our weekly family traditions alive. We still have #wastedwednesday dinners and soaking sunday. These two weekly rituals allow us to stay connected and come together as a family. Girlfriend L and I have been working towards carving out individual time. It is a challenge to find a balance between family time and making space for the individual relationships. We practice kitchen table poly which means all our partners are comfortable being around each other and acting as a family. However, we still need to make time for each individual relationship within the family, We cannot maintain those connections if we do not dedicate time to them.
Another new and exciting development is I started dating Girlfriend S and Girlfriend T. They are a married couple whom I have been friends with for a few years. Our relationship evolved over the years into a partnership. I am loving the shift that has occurred in our relationship. I am loving creating and maintaining individual relationships within an already established relationship. I love the feeling of enhancing a beautiful and healthy relationship between two people I love.
Also, I AM OFFICIALLY DIVORCED.
Girlfriend A (me!) has moved out of the family home (where I lived with Girlfriend L and Boyfriend J and our combined 6 kids). I now live with boyfriend B with our three children a few minutes away. While the decision to switch up our cohabitation was a hard one to make, we all needed more space. 9 people and five dogs in a 4 bedroom house was starting to wear on us a bit.
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| Our puppers enjoying their new space |
With this change, we have had to be more mindful of making time to nurture the individual relationships throughout the polycule. When a shift occurs like this in a 'cule, it can be easy to drift apart. That has been a fear of everyone in the 'cule so we have been very mindful to keep our weekly family traditions alive. We still have #wastedwednesday dinners and soaking sunday. These two weekly rituals allow us to stay connected and come together as a family. Girlfriend L and I have been working towards carving out individual time. It is a challenge to find a balance between family time and making space for the individual relationships. We practice kitchen table poly which means all our partners are comfortable being around each other and acting as a family. However, we still need to make time for each individual relationship within the family, We cannot maintain those connections if we do not dedicate time to them.
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| Christmas with Girlfriend S and Girlfriend T |
Also, I AM OFFICIALLY DIVORCED.
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